points by scardine 8 years ago

Like almost all problems in life you have only 4 options:

#1 Change you (accept what you are unable to change)

#2 Change the other (convince them to follow your vision)

#3 Fly (divorce, quit)

#4 Stay and suffer (include drinking, doing drugs, whining)

It is amazing how many people chose number 4.

osteele 8 years ago

If you are not already self-medicating or a whiner, #4 is a sub case of #1.

  • quickthrower2 8 years ago

    Not really. #4 and #1 have the same outward appearance, but different mental states.

phkahler 8 years ago

>> It is amazing how many people chose number 4.

Agreed. We all need to periodically reread "Who Moved My Cheese?"

ORioN63 8 years ago

#1, #2, #3 change state. #4 is no-op.

  • firethief 8 years ago

    The state changes no matter what; time makes actions out of no-ops.

    • Infernal 8 years ago

      > time makes actions out of no-ops.

      Did you just write this extemporaneously? I want to put this where I'll see it at least 3 times a day.

      • cweagans 8 years ago

        "extemporaneously" is probably my new favorite word.

    • Terr_ 8 years ago
       
        Who would work-hours bear,  
  To grunt and sweat under a startup life,  
  But that the dread of something after now,  
  The undiscovered country to whose bourn  
  No traveler arrives puzzles the will  
  And makes us rather bear those ills we have  
  Than fly to others that we know not of?  
    
  Thus time does cause operations in us all,  
  And thus the native hue of indecision  
  Is painted o'er with the pale cast of change,  
  And edifices of great inertia
  With this regard their currents turn awry,  
  And gain the name of action.
HenryBemis 8 years ago

I was once told of this expression: It doesn't matter whether the rock hits the egg or the egg his the rock. The egg will break.

If you are the egg, either get out or prepare to suffer (#4). It looks like in this case the CTO feels he/she is the egg and a wrong choice has been made.

If "it is definitely happening" then I would suggest #3, find another job and be merry :)

joejerryronnie 8 years ago

Can I still drink, do drugs, and whine if I choose options #1, #2, or #3?

  • quickthrower2 8 years ago

    You can do all 4. Convince them to change, then quit anyway, change your perspective, get high and then moan about it.