wingerlang 5 years ago

(I don’t hate social media)

One specific behavior I dislike though is the very public display of .. thanking? People often seem to talk to their followers rather than the person they seem to be talking to.

They’ll say “had a great!!! time at XYZ with you @someone see you next time!!”

Like, cool but why don’t you just tell them? DM? In person?

Seems to happen especially often between high profile personalities within the given domain.

But yes, I get it, you’re both using twitter as a tool and this gives you more visibility together, still I can’t stand it.

kleer001 5 years ago

Anonymity.

In large groups without clear individual accountability there will tend to hide bullies and those who practice bad faith. There will emerge other types of preventable violence that doesn't happen in real life face to face small groups of adults. It also allows for bots, state sponsored propaganda, and phishing.

  • kleer001 5 years ago

    saw this great summary on a comment about minecraft servers and griefers...

    "The lower the cost to get in, the more people who violated trust. The higher the price, the less people who violated trust. When personal reputation was on the line, no one violated trust."

    Which sums up the issue nicely.

quickthrower2 5 years ago

Lack of anonymity.

I hate that communities exist in FB but I have to not only join FB to engage but with a real identity. Try creating a fake profile and after 2 weeks or so it gets banned. During that time you are pestered to add photos, friends, etc. what if I just want to buy a second hand chair?

  • askafriend 5 years ago

    I don’t sell any second hand items to random anonymous people. I just don’t want to risk those kind of interactions.

    That’s why I exclusively sell second hand items on Nextdoor or to people who have filled out, legit looking profiles on Facebook.

    I know a ton of people who think the same way. So the market is effectively filtering out anonymity regardless of if the feature is available or not.

  • kleer001 5 years ago

    Can you not participate in Craigslist?

    The biggest draw to me with Facebook markets is that I am talking with real people with real reputations, not some anonymous anyone who can come and go without repercussions.

CM30 5 years ago

How they try and centralise everything, and make it too easy for people to brigade communities they don't like. Something that's federated would probably solve a lot of the issues Reddit has for example, as well as a lot of the controversy over Twitter's ban policy (by letting communities have their own guidelines that don't affect the entire service).

seattle_spring 5 years ago

It allows the people with the loudest voices to seem like the dominant opinion.

idoh 5 years ago

tl;dr That some people are forced to use it in order to have a social life.

I was talking to my friends about social media, and how it can be bad for some people. I said, "Ok, all they have to do is turn it off". The response was general outrage, and it was pointed out that I already have my social circle and if I don't use Facebook then it is not as if that goes away. But for many people, if they are not on Facebook / Instagram / Snapchat / whatever, then they lose access to friends. Picture kids in high school who don't talk to each other in-between classes and coordinate everything via a social platform. So it is bad that some people can't just "stop using it" because if they do then they'll be left out of activities.