daft_pink 2 days ago

I hosted couchsurfers and it was fun, but i stopped when i started getting detailed reviews about random shit about my home after people left.

Letting people live in your house in the central business district of a top tier city and then having them comment on your towel designs.

It’s not a hotel. I’m so over it.

  • pcthrowaway 2 days ago

    Couchsurfing really went to shit towards the end (2020 when they went from "we will always keep our core service free" to locking you out of your account unless you paid them overnight without any warning)

    I think reviews criticizing aesthetic choices or even cleanliness would tend to be taken with a grain of salt, but also I hosted people (and couchsurfed) from 2005-2020 and managed to avoid bad reviews, so perhaps if I personally had received a slew of silly bad reviews over silly things like that I would have abandoned it earlier.

    • daft_pink 2 days ago

      Yeah, I really doubt any one turned down the opportunity, because of the criticism. It was just one review mentioned it and the next review disputed it. It just became a train of reviews. I just became annoyed by it and it made me wonder why I was bothering.

    • k__ 2 days ago

      Interesting.

      I had the impression it slowly transformed itself to a hook-up community and that attracted a different crowd than intended.

  • muppetman a day ago

    Can we please see a photo of the towel(s) I'm too invested in this now.

    • getlawgdon 21 hours ago

      "...and upon reaching for a hand towel I realized that the motif on it was not a diagonal pattern of dog bones but without doubt actually row after slanted row of penises, 100%"

  • aapeli 17 hours ago

    (I'm the Couchers co-founder who wrote this blog post.)

    Yes I agree, CouchSurfing.com went to shit through a slow process of enshittification that ended up looking like this. That's exactly why we founded Couchers.org when CouchSurfing.com put up a paywall (it was the last straw for us). We're trying to take what Couchsurfing was at its best and go further. We're solving these issues you're talking about with better moderation, better safety tools, and nudging users to behave in a way that's best for the community, etc.

    I think it comes down to setting clear expectations and educating users about what it is and what it's not. We try to make it very clear and then enforce those rules very carefully. Once this happens, it's surprising how quickly the community roots out that behavior.

  • nosioptar a day ago

    That's some weird shit. I'd never couch surf without my own towel.

    • stevekemp a day ago

      Hey, you sass that hoopy nosioptar? There's a frood who really knows where his towel is.

    • apt-apt-apt-apt a day ago

      Sharing towels is a great way to feel better about not being the only one with a fungal infection.

      • pavel_lishin 17 hours ago

        Surely people wash bath towels after visitors use them, no?

        • apt-apt-apt-apt 8 hours ago

          You need a high-touch process, something like wash with high heat, maybe disinfectant, not overloaded, separate loads (cross-contamination). Dry with high heat for a long time, run a hot empty cycle after to clean machine.

          In an ideal world, the host cares about your health and cleanliness and of course does all this for your sake. In the real world, it's toss and wash for minimal care, time and money.

  • mattigames a day ago

    Reviews in these kind of sites should always be moderated before it reaches the hosts, if not by a moderation team (due lack of fund) then at least other users, e.g. 2 out of 3 other hosts that mark the review as helpful and within the spirit of the website.

    • onionisafruit a day ago

      In this scenario hosting couch surfers also puts you on the hook as a moderator? I’ll pass.

      • mattigames a day ago

        As much as stackoverflow puts you on the hook as a moderator.

  • madaxe_again a day ago

    This is just hospitality reviews 101. I run a couple of Airbnbs in the uk - 99.9% of guests leave gushing reviews, 0.01% break open locked cupboards and are like “There was a cupboard FULL of cleaning supplies! Disgusting! 1/5!”.

    I’ve even had people bring a plastic rat with them and pose it around the apartment to then complain to customer service - successfully. That one cost me about £5,000 in a refund, lost revenue as I was made to cancel bookings until I had a pest controller in, and a mystified but still expensive pest controller.

    Pareto’s law is pareto’s law.

    • akudha 20 hours ago

      Some people are just plain...weird? I was reading reviews of some book on Amazon (can't remember which one now). Someone gave the book a one star review, because "it was delivered two days later than it was promised" while simultaneously saying they haven't read the book. How is it the book's/author's fault that Amazon delivered the book late? Why are they giving lowest rating for a book without even reading it? None of this makes any sense

      • x187463 18 hours ago

        In that case, the reviewer seems to have completely misunderstood the subject of the review. That's a fine review (I guess) if the subject of the review is Amazon and the purchasing/delivery experience. Of course, it would be obvious from reading the review that it's not useful to somebody looking for book reviews and it should be (re)moved, but for whatever reason we have accepted platforms such as Amazon will simply fail to handle it properly.

        • daseiner1 16 hours ago

          i would hope by now such reviews are heavily down-weighted on the back end as far as contribution to the overall rating displayed for a given product. seems relatively easy to automatically detect and I struggle to see why Amazon would want deflated reviews for products they're selling.

          maybe it's a legal thing, could be viewed as market place manipulation i suppose. and they've certainly had enough worries about anti-trust already.

      • MisterTea 17 hours ago

        These are selfish, immature people. They exist all over and the reason why we can't have nice things.

    • figmert a day ago

      I think the difference between Airbnbs and couchsurfers is huge. Couch surfing is a voluntary yet free service provided by someone out of the goodwill of their heart. Airbnb is provided for profit. Leaving such reviews is fine for an Airbnb (assuming it's deserved ofc), but certainly not okay for couch surfing.

      It does depend what they've reviewed though. Is the person hosting living in a in a gross apartment vs the towel designs are not nice.

    • gosub100 20 hours ago

      Just consider it a tax on the amount of damage your business did to local housing costs.

    • nandomrumber a day ago

      Scam plan: know someone in Airbnb customer satisfaction team > rent expensive Airbnb accommodation > make bogus complaint complete with faked pictures to support bogus claim > have the claim approved by acquaintance > share profit.

      • seanhunter a day ago

        The “profit” you would be sharing with the person in Airbnb customer satisfaction in your hypothetical scam is a refund of your money which you would have paid to rent the place. This is like Homer Simpson’s grease business.

  • UltraSane a day ago

    "He has the ugliest towels I have ever seen! I still have nightmares about them! 1 star!"

    • daft_pink a day ago

      But then the next one is like… “The towels ARE ugly but it’s worth it for the location," you can’t make this sh*t up.

      • laborcontract a day ago

        I’ve only had boring towels in the entirety of my life and i’m suddenly curious about what your towels look like.

      • Hrun0 a day ago

        That's hilarious I am sorry lol

    • gattr 17 hours ago

      You jest, but if you encountered towels with print of the logo of a programming language you detest?...

aapeli 2 days ago

I'm one of the Couchers founders and wrote this blog post (and incidentally spend way too much time on HN), awesome to see this show up here!

This launch is the culmination of a huge push from our volunteer team to clean up a bunch of core features and make the platform easier to use. We are also launching a new branding strategy and new landing page.

Quick plug: we are looking for senior React Native devs to join us and help us get a mobile app out, as well as React/Python devs for frontend/backend. Everything we do is open source (under MIT): https://github.com/Couchers-org/couchers/

Happy to answer any questions folks might have!

  • jonp888 a day ago

    Alternatives to Couchsurfing.com such as BeWelcome and WarmShowers have been around for many years, decades even and have users counts into 6 figures. They've remained non-corporate but never managed to reach mainstream popularity like Couchsurfing.com did.

    What are you hoping to achieve by launching another hospitality sharing site that the other established non-profit sites couldn't?

    • nabramow a day ago

      Couchers Frontend Team Lead here. Aapeli is out for the night so I'm popping in to answer from my POV.

      I think the main difference is that we're trying to capture the spirit of what CouchSurfing.com used to be: modern, easy to use, welcoming to newbies and centered on genuine social connection. But we also want to go beyond that. Build for today’s world—with better safety tools, better moderation, and more community-driven features that help people find each other easier.

      Couchsurfing was initially about free hospitality and cultural exchange but is now largely driven by monetization. They also haven't really provided many new features to users since going for-profit.

      BeWelcome is another alternative that came out of the CouchSurfing community years ago. It has a more ideological focus around democratic decision-making and they are not as newbie friendly, have an older UI, and are a bit slower to adopt new tech.

      WarmShowers on the other hand is for a completely different crowd: it's for bike tourers that leave at the crack of dawn and arrive at sunset. They need a shower (hence the name), a place to put their bike, and a bed to sleep on. They'll probably be a bit too tired to socialize. That's very different from the traditional couch surfing platforms where socialization is the focus.

      • vincnetas a day ago

        so couchers focus on better UI and new tech? why not join efforts with bewellcome? or are they too "democratic" and not everyone sees new tech and better UI as major improvement?

        curious where this new road will lead surfers.

        • aapeli 18 hours ago

          Part of it is the better UI and new tech, but there's a lot more too.

          Just on that point though: there's actually another open-source platform called Trustroots. They initally started as a rewrite of the BeWelcome frontend, but because of politics and such, BW never let them merge those big changes, so they spun off. Trustroots is a cool project but I think they swung too far into the realm of anarchism in their vibe both as a platform (they are very hitchhikey, so their moderation model is extremely hands off) and as a project (they have this things called a "do-ocracy"). We think there needs to be some planning and roadmapping and a healthy mix of dev + non-dev, as well as serious moderation to keep the platform safe.

      • raffael_de 21 hours ago

        I cannot select England, Northern Ireland, Great Britain ... as a visited region. Those countries are not listed.

        • mattl 18 hours ago

          No United Kingdom?

        • aapeli 17 hours ago

          Send a bug report and we'll add them!

    • subarctic a day ago

      I guess their advantage is they have Couch in the name? Joking but I'm curious what the answer is here, I think everyone that remembers the Couchsurfing glory days is hoping that they or someone succeeds in bringing them back

      • johanyc 12 hours ago

        I do think Coucher is easier to remember than the others lol

  • erlend_sh a day ago

    Highly recommend integrating with the atproto network to hop onto its social graph; that could be a major differentiator for your service. I’d love to log in with my Bluesky account and see who else in my network has opted to share their couchsurfing status.

    (I put up a GitHub issue)

    • aapeli 17 hours ago

      Thanks, will look into it. Get in touch if you want to help out on it too!

0xbadcafebee a day ago

I haven't used Couchers, but I was once very active with the Couchsurfing community in a couple cities. Here's what made Couchsurfing once a vibrant, thriving community:

- Forums. Regular-old stupid 1990's CGI web forums. They are the perfect way to grow organic community on the web. Simple, functional, compact, reliable. They don't bury content in endless scroll, they organize discussion by topics, pinned messages help drive central/ongoing discussions, and local moderators keep things in order. Couchsurfing began a steep nose-dive when the redesign de-emphasized forums.

- Regular local group meet-ups. There were plenty of people who hosted and surfed who never went to one of these; but for many, this was their first introduction to the community, and their first "profile reviews" that gave them social credit/standing. For others, the meetups were all they ever did... not really the point of the site, but it was a symbiotic relationship. Without regular in-person meet-ups, the community is too decentralized, and moderation suffers. Once regular meetups died, and the other "features" of Couchsurfing emerged, it became a weird hookup app, which you could see not only in "chat", but also in profiles and reviews. The social pressure and moderation of local meetups created a culture and reinforced its values. (also: depends 100% on forums)

- Reviews. Love 'em or hate 'em, you live and die in the community by your reviews. I feel like we should have public, irrevocable reviews for all kinds of things now. And bad reviews aren't necessarily a death sentence, but they are the meat and potatoes of the site, so they really have to work well. Looks like Couchers is still improving them, which is good.

- Weirdness. Part of the allure of Couchsurfing was the unexpected. People would tailor their profiles in all sorts of ways; long lists of rules, unique formatting, almost like an old MySpace page. Maybe you'd stay with a Mormon, or a Naturist, or at the last art-punk squat in Berlin. This creates safety issues, uncomfortable situations. But it also challenges people to deal with the real world (when they elect to).

I see Couchers has banned some of these last types of interactions (nudism & shared space). Regardless of what you think about this, every such restriction will shrink the human experience surfing used to provide. You can still have a restrictive hospitality site, but it's unlikely to be as successful. I think it would work if dedicated to one thing, like tourism, or rock climbing. But if you want it to be general, it's gotta be messy.

  • yunesj a day ago

    Wow, thanks for the warning that Couchers bans naturists. I am aware of many unique and beautiful experiences by naturists hosts. It’s disappointing that Couchers would want to eliminate them.

    • sschueller a day ago

      Self censorship resulting from pressures from the likes of Visa, MasterCard, Google Play and Apple's App store when the law doesn't forbid it. This is the problem when the world is run by monopolies. Laws don't mean anything, companies effectively make them.

      • raffael_de 21 hours ago

        I'm pretty sure payment providers aren't the reason why Couchers decided to ban those offerings.

  • 3abiton a day ago

    This brought up so many memories. The CS raves on Paris bridges, the bar hopping in Barcelona, and the nomads of Berlin. If anything defines CS it's the unexpectedly weird. On the other hand, you will need to dedicate sufficient energy and time to it, be it as a guest or a host, or an event goer.

yrcyrc 2 days ago

Very fond memories of couchsurfing met very nice people both as a traveler and a host. But this was long ago. Not sure this will ever work again though

  • specproc 2 days ago

    Hosted loads for a while, a brilliant time. We were living somewhere unusual at the time, everyone that came through was interesting, intelligent and fun. Zero bad experiences. Made some friends for life.

    My flatmate at the time ended up marrying a couchsurfer we'd hosted, after reconnecting many years later.

    We all got sulky and huffy when they started charging and stopped engaging, but the sad thing is we just got too busy. Couchsurfing was like hosting a party constantly, and as work picked up I found it harder to engage.

    Still seems to be a community there. I found myself in Split a while ago and stumbled upon a meetup, had a great evening unexpectedly.

    • jbverschoor a day ago

      Same. I hosted do many people. Super interesting, sometimes weird. I have soo many good memories and I still gave many Of them as my friend.

      Unfortunately the whole platform changed a few years ago.

      Very low quality requests, hosts had to paid, bad support, and bad filtering.

      It’s too bad, bc it left a sour taste at the end. Many people would chat in English, but in reality they can’t speak nor write English. Also, the last few years pale just use it as a cheap hotel. No interaction and sometimes plain rude behavior. I even had to kick someone out.

    • dkersten a day ago

      I lived in a house where one of my housemates was also into couchsurfing and for a few month in summer and early autumn 2008, we were very active hosts. One weekend while there was a CS event on in my city, we hosted 12 people at once.

      In 2009, I was living somewhere I couldn’t host, but my primary social group for that year was other local couchsurfers — we used to meet up twice a week. One of them got married to one of my friends. Others I kept in touch with for many years.

      I haven’t been part of it in a long time, but I haven’t many fond memories of the couchsurfing community. Like you, I didn’t have any bad experiences.

      • som a day ago

        I was hosting around this time too (and surfing a bit, but less so), it was a great experience. Never got up to 12 but we always had someone with us, someone crossing over ... and probably someone we were doing a favour for. At one point had two Italian climbers in a tent in our living room for multiple weeks, who ended up moving to our city and becoming good friends.

        I tended to go out my way to try and accept people to stay who were either very new the the platform (which usually made it hard to find a place as karma was low) or were very different to my normal group of friends. Which definitely made for some interesting experiences and conversations. Price of entry was usually a list of their favourite albums. I discovered so much great music out of it.

        Finally gave it all up when I moved back to Australia and wasn't in a position to host anymore. So many fond memories tho. I miss it.

    • nik_0_0 a day ago

      Never hosted or surfed, but joined the meetups in a couple of different cities when traveling, and it was great every time. (This was 2013) Seems like it just had a nice group of people.

  • maqnius 2 days ago

    After CS went downhill, I created accounts at most of the alternatives around. I just leave it there, offering our living room.

    I'm not living in a very touristic area, but every other month, I get a request for a night and if it fit's in my schedule, I'll accept. It's been only nice experiences so far and no one gave me the vibe of seeing it as a cheap alternative to hotels only. Most people ask on bewelcome.org by the way.

    I just like that even though I stay in my bubble most of the time, I get the opportunity to spend some quality time with a stranger. Especially because those strangers are often on some kind of a mission, else they typically wouldn't come to my area.

  • simonhfrost 2 days ago

    What's changed? Did you get older?

    • Nextgrid a day ago

      I wonder how much of it is down to the internet changing - similar to the eternal september, or overtourism.

      Couchsurfing used to be a relatively niche thing which allowed it to work and thrive. The percentage of freeloaders or bad actors was low enough not to be a problem.

      But now with more people being aware of it/its alternatives, the percentage of bad actors would increase too (and maybe not even proportionally to the number of good actors).

      • yupitsme123 a day ago

        It probably also belonged to a certain period of time and a certain generation. The peak of couchsurfing coincided with millennials coming of age, and provided something that appealed to them at the time. Namely, cheap travel and interesting, random experiences to brag about.

        That demographic is a lot older now, and the younger generation has other interests and expectations which couchsurfing likely does not appeal to.

      • gyomu a day ago

        The Internet changed the nature of tourism quite a bit as well. You have to remember most people used to use services like travel agents or tours to organize things for them. Anyone who went off the beaten path and was interested in experiencing another place by sleeping on a stranger’s couch was probably someone interesting.

        Now everyone is used to using the internet to organize their travel and get the best deals on anything they can - and so websites like couchsurfing become a free booking.com alternative for people who have no interest in the human experience side of it.

  • yosito a day ago

    CouchSurfing still has a very active community. I'm hosting these days and get multiple requests every week.

    • cmtcosta a day ago

      How have your interactions been with CS members? Do people bother reading your profile, do you get a lot of freeloaders requests?

Dowwie a day ago

The Summer after graduating high school is sometimes used to travel, taking extended backpacking trips or other. Couching could be a big hit for this demographic that takes a cultural immersion.

I see 900+ Couchers registered among a few of the New York City boroughs. My impression is that this means someone can live in NYC for an entire Summer, couch-surfing the big city and establishing a real connection with at least 60 hosts. That would be quite an experience, with many stories to share.

  • lawlessone a day ago

    >, couch-surfing the big city and establishing a real connection with at least 60 hosts. That would be quite an experience, with many stories to share.

    Sounds like my idea of Hell, but i'm introverted.

  • -mlv a day ago

    Top locations have way more people interested in couchsurfing than there are people hosting, so probably not feasible.

    • hallak a day ago

      I am a couchers host in NYC and don't actually get too many requests! I host someone about once or twice a month.

nabramow a day ago

Oh hey, volunteer dev at Couchers.org here. How cool to see this pop up on Hacker News!

For the n00bs: I think the best way to explain the concept of couch surfing is to imagine visiting a friend in another city — they show you around, you have a great time, and you crash on their couch, or guest room or whatever. With Couchers, it’s just like that — except you’re meeting that friend for the first time (via Couchers).

Anyway come join us we're fun lol.

konsalexee a day ago

Nice I was loving Couchsurfing until they started aggressively monetising it. Had really great experiences with hosting people! Hope Couchers will revive the great experience of hosting people

  • yosito a day ago

    Couchsurfing isn't aggressively monetized. They've got a very very small annual fee, and once you pay it they never harass you for money. It's far less monetized than other mainstream apps.

    • yoavm a day ago

      Making it impossible for me to even see my own profile or message with people I previously hosted is exactly what I call "aggressive". It's not about the cost, it's about what exactly is being restricted. They literally took content that I created (MY profile) and are asking me to pay for it. A sane monetising approach would be to charge for sending new requests, for example.

      • kapsel a day ago

        100% this. They took away all the (often very personal) reviews that is part of my account, and forced me to pay for access to them.

  • rambambram a day ago

    Every month I get an email from Paypal that I automatically paid 1,99 euros to Couchsurfing. I love that email!

    Had some great experiences with CS and I'm happy to pay them for these couple of times a year I host somebody.

bluesmoon 2 days ago

Wait, is this a rebrand of couchsurfing.org?

  • vintagedave 2 days ago

    It looks completely different and is a non-profit:

    > Couchers, Inc. is a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization ... [incorporated] in the United States in late 2021, and the project was moved under the purview of this new non-profit in early 2022.

    -- https://couchers.org/foundation

    • gardnr a day ago

      Couchers has the same color "theme" that Couchsurfing had in ~2010.

      Couchsurfing started as a 501c3:

      https://blog.couchsurfing.com/a-letter-from-co-founder-casey...

      • spreeni a day ago

        Hey, Couchers backend volunteer here - this is a very good and valid question as many of us have gone through the same disappointment with Couchsurfing.com in the past. This is an excerpt from our FAQs on that topic:

        "How will you prevent this platform from ever becoming a for-profit like Couchsurfing™ did?

        We fundamentally believe that attempting to make a profit out of couch surfing is a bad idea. It introduces incentives that damage the community and would not make financial sense — the couch surfing idea, based on non-transactional experiences, is not monetizable. This is about societal value, not monetary value.

        We are keeping the platform as a non-profit forever. Our plan to follow this relies on three fundamental pillars:

        1. We are legally established as a non-profit foundation, and our constitution contains provisions that prevents the company from ceasing to be a non-profit, or transferring its assets to an entity that is not a non-profit.

        2. We will carry out a policy of distributed moderation, so that we will engage hundreds of moderators as volunteers around the world to moderate their own communities. We will make the platform reliant on volunteers, and so the entity controlling the platform could not be a for-profit business without violating laws in many countries. The foundation would have to remain as a non-profit to continue operating.

        3. Our code base is open source and anybody can spin up an alternative instance. If the community ever comes to feel that the leaders of the platform are not acting in their interest, they can simply fork the codebase, making a copy that is under control of new management.

        Finally, we do hope that you can trust our Founders (Aapeli and Itsi) and Board Members in their promise to keep the platform not only community-led, non-profit, and open-source, but in line with the greater interests of the global couch surfing community."

        https://couchers.org/faq

  • nabramow 2 days ago

    Volunteer dev for Couchers here, crazy seeing this pop up here!

    Anyway to answer the question, we are totally separate from Couchsurfing.org!

    We created Couchers in 2020 after Couchsurfing put up a pay wall, after going for-profit and going downhill for awhile.

    We want to keep the original Couchsurfing spirit alive, so we started Couchers.org.

  • listic a day ago

    Another project.

    I happen to have an account with them, and also BeWelcome (what seems to be the closest to popular alternative to the original couchsurfing.org) and TrustRoots, too. Also, the original one, of course.

supportengineer a day ago

Is this some sort of database, of couches? A couch base, if you will?

artur_makly 2 days ago

In 2008, I met my ex wife on CS.. those were good times before they went corp later. Also had many fun trips through EU with it. Glad to see it back!

  • nabramow 2 days ago

    Volunteer dev for Couchers here. We're actually a totally separate website from Couchsurfing. Different team, different tech stack, though we hope to keep the original vibe of CS alive! You can find us at couchers.org.

ThinkBeat a day ago

Is this not established as couch surfing? Is that a (tm) thing now, so you cant use the term? It is intuitive and well established.

  • NewJazz a day ago

    I don't think they've applied for a trademark?

wewewedxfgdf 2 days ago

Note to all founders:

Tell the reader what your product is - first.

And you can't manage to do that, then your logo link should go to your product, not back to the blog.

I gave this TWO attempts to find out =what the product is - that's the biggest opportunity most startups will get - and this company failed twice to tell me conveniently what it is and I am not trying a third time.

  • RyanOD a day ago

    Completely agree. It took me much longer than I wanted to figure out what the hell Couchers is. Be direct and to the point with the language you use above the fold (on the home page...not the blog post).

  • NicuCalcea a day ago

    Did they change it in the last hour? The logo sends me to the homepage, not the blog.

  • stevage a day ago

    I don't think the blog post was written for Hacker News.

  • kingnothing a day ago

    It's in bold in the 3rd paragraph, but that requires you to know what couch surfing is in the first place.

latexr a day ago

> We use cookies to ensure that we give you the best experience on our website. If you continue to use this site, we will assume that you are happy with it.

You are likely violating the GDPR. You can’t just assume consent (that applies to other areas of life), that’s the whole point.

Either you only use cookies which are essential for basic usage—in which case you don’t even need to tell users about it—or you need to provide a way to refuse everything else which has to be at least as easy as the way to accept.

  • Nextgrid 12 hours ago

    In practice, nobody is going to enforce this, so they're in the clear. 90% of the cookie consent flows you see out there are not compliant either and are little more than compliance theatre.

  • dash2 a day ago

    God I hate the GDPR with a passion. The amount of time I've wasted clicking those stupid popups.

    • latexr 21 hours ago

      That hate is entirely misguided, and an indication of how far you’re been tricked by the ones violating your data.

      It’s as if companies had been pissing in your beer for decades, then a law passed saying you could only do that with consent, and now you’re complaining that there are all these consent forms every time you want to drink your pissed beer instead of taking it as an indicator to buy from another brand.

      If anything, the GDPR should have been more aggressive and made all extraneous data collection outright illegal with no option to opt-in. As it stands, it’s still a powerful indicator of those you cannot trust, letting you know as soon as you open their website.

      • losvedir 20 hours ago

        I disagree with the framing of "pissing in beer". To me it's more like companies have been giving me hot coffee for decades and now every time I get one they have to tell me, "careful! It's hot!" Like, yeah, I know, just give me the dang coffee.

        • latexr 19 hours ago

          Everyone wants hot coffee. If you hadn’t been getting hot coffee in the past, you’d have asked for it, but if you hadn’t been getting your data mined (or piss in your beer) you might not have noticed but would’ve been better off if it hadn’t happened.

          Furthermore, temperature is an essential feature of coffee, so under the GDPR you don’t need to tell or ask users about it. Piss and data mining are not essential features.

          So websites are already serving you hot coffee (or cold beer) but then saying “I really really really want to piss in your drink, please allow it”. Previously they just pissed without asking. Which is why the mandatory warning is useful, it immediately signals they are pissers and you should probably go somewhere else. Especially when you click to see their “partners” and it’s a list of literally eight hundred entities wanting to pee in your drink.

      • gosub100 19 hours ago

        There should be a browser setting that just answers yes/no for you. Not an extension, or a hack. A setting that is read on page load and doesn't interrupt me.

        • Nextgrid 12 hours ago

          GDPR covers more than cookies though. It covers different usages of the same data even, so it's not simply a matter of providing/not providing the data. For example, an e-commerce site needs your address to deliver your package (legitimate interest, no consent required), but if they want to send spam to it or resell that data to a data broker they still need to ask for consent first.

          • gosub100 10 hours ago

            fair, but then don't ask me when the page loads. ask me when I fill out the order, and even better, put GDPR: <question>

            asking up-front allows them the anti-pattern of giving me 40+ choices of what to opt-in or out of, and it allows the anti-pattern of using confusing language to confuse people (uncheck the box to revoke the widthrawal of refusal to copying your PI)

            • Nextgrid 9 hours ago

              Doing it properly requires actually complying with the GDPR - deferring non-essential data processing until consent has been given, storing that consent status somewhere, etc.

              Or, you can just do the fake-compliance approach by slapping the same cookie banner everyone else uses and call it a day.

              > it allows the anti-pattern of using confusing language to confuse people

              FYI, that is not compliant either, but again, we've already established 90% of the players out there don't bother with real compliance and just do what everyone else does - and it works, because enforcement doesn't really exist anyway.

        • madaxe_again 3 hours ago

          This is an absolutely idiotic suggestion.

artur_makly 2 days ago

I met my ex wife in CS.. those were good times before they went corp

peterburkimsher a day ago

If anybody is interested in beta app testing, I’m happy to invite you to the BeWelcome.org iOS app!

Currently it’s just a PWA, but we’re trying to keep it simple so it can get onto the App Store.

I was a big fan of CouchSurfing before they started charging a monthly fee, which is a similar gripe I have with Servas. I met my girlfriend at the CS meet up in Kaohsiung, and although I’m no longer able to help, BeWelcome has several ways to volunteer.

deadbabe a day ago

Are Couchsurfing type apps inevitably doomed to just becoming low-key hookup apps?

  • aapeli a day ago

    Couchers founder and wrote the article.

    I don't think so: it just takes thoughtful moderation, setting clear rules, and then enforcing them. When you make it socially unacceptable on the platform, people do a good job reporting inappropriate behavior.

    I think the reason that CouchSurfing.com turned into a low-key hookup app is that it was actually a profitable strat for them. They used to monetize verification (something like $60 per verification), and my hypothesis is that a large proportion of people who ever verified paid for verification soon after signing up. By being a hookup site, it actually increased the perceived value to a certain subset of people signing up, which increased signups, verification numbers, and revenue. Of course this made the experience worse on the platform itself once people tried to use it, but they could milk that "easy way to hook up" concept for a long time (basically until the pandemic killed it).

doctorpangloss 2 days ago

Michael Sandel’s book had a good section on Airbnb killing couch surfing. Maybe the one thing Airbnb really did do.

Another POV is, everyone is fatigued out of selling to customers who cannot afford to pay more. In this space: Trusted House Sitters is like having a homeless person stay over. Couchsurfing: is it similar?

  • nabramow 2 days ago

    IMO AirBnb and Couchsurfing have to entirely different aims.

    AirBnB is about the space itself. You pay for the space.

    Couchsurfing is about the people sharing the space with you, cultural-exchange, etc. You do not pay, it's more about connecting and meeting with people.

    • subarctic a day ago

      Ya in some cases Airbnb can be like Couchsurfing if the host is there in the same apartment/house and actually more of a host/local guide, and I think some Couchsurfing hosts may have transitioned to Airbnb, but there's definitely a difference in what the "default" expectation is

      • bemmu a day ago

        We've been hosting both AirBnB and Couchers/CouchSurfing.

        AirBnB has the vibe that you as the host are a provider of a service, which will be rated by the "customer". Couchsurfing is just some people hanging out.

givemeethekeys a day ago

Oh, how I disagree with the pitch. Give me transactions, baby! I'll build my own connections. Money talks!

carabiner 2 days ago

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  • chis 2 days ago

    I seriously doubt their website failed because they used django and react, that's gotta be the most common tech stack of all time.

  • diggan 2 days ago

    > Lots of issues like this due to an overly dynamic site.

    Rarely are UX issues there because of anything technical at all, just poor testing and poor polishing. Of course, things are way easier with a static site, since the back button Just Works(TM) in that case, but doesn't mean "overly dynamic sites" cannot have proper browser history.

    • zahlman a day ago

      > Rarely are UX issues there because of anything technical at all, just poor testing and poor polishing.

      Honestly, I think bad taste in UX has a lot to do with it too.

  • eeue56 2 days ago

    The "trendy stack" comment seems misplaced. CS is famously written in Ruby on Rails, not PHP, perhaps one of the most "trendy" stacks at the time[0]. Coincidentally, CS is also awfully slow with frequent errors. Managing all my guests when my city was in high season was usually much easier to do via WhatsApp.

    To be honest, as a top host in my city, the only features that Couchsurfing was actually good for was discovery. Everything else was kinda broken or slow. It added to the charm, but it definitely wasn't much better than what you're claiming here for Couchers.

    [0] - https://about.couchsurfing.com/about/jobs/rails.html

  • stevage a day ago

    Calling python and Django trendy in 2025 seems a bit misplaced. Maybe 15 years ago they were.