HN is not an amazing place with brilliant people.
It's an echo chamber full of self-important piles of dogshit.
The real world is amazing... but this is a place for self-centered douche canoes like yourself to masturbate to your own imagined greatness. It's a place for assholes. It's a place for people whose fathers fucked up badly.
> It's a place for assholes
Sounds like you're contributing to your own narrative here. The only self-centered douche canoe of a comment I see in this thread is from you.
HN has its share of good & bad, but I've generally enjoyed talking to some of the people on this site; much more than sites like Reddit which imo fit your description much much better.
Also.... who hurt you?